Cocaine Addiction Stories - A Life-Ruining Addiction
I went through a long distance relationship, and if you think that your LDR sucks, As a teenager it is normal to try things, I did drugs here and there nothing too serious . Listen to other sides of the story, listen to people's reasoning, listen to . Long-distance relationships, office romances, and marriages arranged work and personal life are blurring, especially among young people. Fuck It. I'll tell a slightly different story than what others have. So long distance relationships can work. .. Not exactly long distance, but still. When the group arrives at the hotel hosting us, we were informed there would be a drug test. . Finally in our late teens, we sent each other our phone numbers.
Additionally, the loved one living with an alcoholic or addict may have an increase in their own frustration, causing them to express anger or act out violently against the substance user. If you are experiencing domestic violence in your relationship, you can always reach out to a domestic violence hotline. Enabling Anger is not the only way substance abuse can impact the user or a loved one. Taking on responsibility for the behaviors and feelings of the addicted loved one.
Working hard to minimize their negative consequences. A classic example of enabling is providing money on a consistent basis so that the user is able to retrieve drugs. He or she may ask for money for gas or groceries, and while their loved one may suspect it is going to drugs, they provide it anyway. The line between helping and enabling is often extremely difficult for those who love someone struggling with addiction to discern.
Codependency Codependency shares some traits with enabling. Control others because they do not think the other person can function independently.
Have low self-esteem and overly focus on their loved one. Are willing to compromise their own needs, wants, and beliefs to keep their loved one calm and content. Are very cautious and aware of the emotional changes of others. Maintain loyalty and commitment to their loved one despite lack of reciprocation. Codependent individuals often get involved in relationships that are one-sided.
Someone who is codependent may be frustrated by the needs and actions of their addicted loved one but may also feel a compulsive need to take care of that person.
The codependent needs the addict as much as the addict needs the codependent. Codependent relationships typically involve their fair share of enabling, as the caretaker figure will often try to cover for the addicted individual or resolve their issues instead of allowing them to face the natural consequences of their substance use.
Repairing the Damage Repairing the Relationship End the current dysfunctional habits. Acknowledge the damage of the past and develop strategies to better deal with these issues in the future. All I did was that I told Cody the truth and wait for his answer to choose again.Long Distance Relationship-My Story
For the next four days of feeling empty, I distracted myself and waited. I was happy again and I was fine with the outcome. The only problem was that it was the end of the summer and we needed to go back home. After the third week I gave up on waiting and was trying to accept the fact that he will never contact me.
I tried to convince myself that he lost the note somehow or anything, but deep down I miss him. Karna November 22, at 2: I am norwegian and I have been together with my boyfriend for 2 years. He is from16 and from Chile, although we met in South-Korea, where we both lived because of our family business.
We met in January and dated ever since. We have been in a LDR for 5 months now, however he broke up with me yesterday. I never smoke, drank or messed around with boys — until i met my boyfriend x-boyfriend. I lost my virginity to him when i was But we loved each other. My parents knew we were young but they loved my boyfriend, and his family loved me. Our relationship was perfect until I moved away from Korea. I was spending the summer of in Norway with my friends and family before I moved to Spain for 1 year.
My boyfriends parents were so nice, letting him come to Norway for half the summer, which was the best time of my life. I fell in love with him even more, seeing him get along with my friends and family.
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To be honest, our LDR has been going great. We skyped everyday and all day on Sundays despite the time difference, which was the major battle in our LDRand we communicated lots. But since he was drunk and only kissed her, i decided to give him a second chance. Lately we have been arguing a lot about the future.
When were we going to see each other again? What happens after we see each other? How long can we continue our LDR? Until the end of collage? The next time we might be able to see each other would be next summer. But, 1 year apart? We love each other, but I cry myself to sleep almost every night and he suffers from great depression. Even though he is depressed and I am suffering from anxiety, everything goes away when we skype. For the last week, we have been debating whether or not we should simply just break up — and that maybe it was for the best.
This weekend 2 days agoI decided to forget about everything that was going on and go to my friends birthday party, at a pub. I got drunk for the very first time. When I woke up the next morning I was so nervous to tell my boyfriend. This is because I promised him that my first time getting drunk would be with him; i would be safe in his arms. And then he hung up. My heart sank to the bottom of the ocean.
I expected him to get mad but not this. I did not cheat on him, so I was in complete shock. How could he react this way? He broke a promise, to stay faithful to me, but i still gave him a second chance. He sent me a text right after he hung up, telling me what a terrible person I was, complaining about how he thought I was different and independent, and loyal. This text made me even more confused.
I have not replied or called since. And I think he is expecting me to ask for forgiveness, and he would forgive. Normally this is what would happen in our relationship, since this has happened many times before.
But perhaps its best this way. He was my best friend, and I would still want to talk to him everyday. Maybe he would take me back and things would go back to normal, but than what will happen? Im only 15 and I know I have a whole life ahead of me, and sorry if this sounds totally insane, but I can only imagine my future with him! I am so comfused. I love him and I want to be with him but even IF he did take me back, what will the future hold? I have read all the other stories, and it really helps to relate with other people.
I am in so much pain. Gerald December 22, at However 32 months later, We finally proved them wrong. Me and my girl friend got back together with more love and passion.
It will work if you work it. Madison March 6, at 3: Ive been down for Zach since we met and he said he feels the same. We tell each other we love each other atleast 20 times in a hour. We plan on moving in together in the future.
And we got together. I knew from the start I loved her, I was just always worried about my personal problems, which made me think will cause me to loose her. And I was trying to get more settled for us. I was a pretty bad fuck up in high school, so I was trying to get done with school, get a job, raise enough money and go see her. She even agreed to the idea and everything. But one problem was she always thought something was holding me back, but that was just school, money, and me. So finally i graduated high school, as a super senior, but early within the year than actually expected.
And now i was trying to get a job, but was having trouble. But we finally had a HUGE talk one night and she told me everything where I was wrong, and put me in my place to say, so then I decided we needed to compromise and so we gave each other many, many promises, and I finally stopped holding back and see each other and gave up my fears of it.
So now it is March, and sadly we got into a little fight which turned into something else. She ended telling me she wants to be with another guy, because he has his own place, job and started school again. Even before she planned on going to school here so we can live and be together but she decided to stay. And at first i was a bit sad she started school, because we planned on. ILoveAngel March 13, at 8: Jacob March 24, at 1: I am super happy to say me and my lovely GF are together now and about to move into an apartment together this summer and our relationship has never been better!
But there has been an overwhelming amount of forgiveness and realism. Despite all the bumps and extreme emotions that come with all of our mistakes, we kept a realistic out look on our relationship. She had to decide if she still loved me after I could make such an extremely dumb decision.
And it look about 6 months for her to really start to trust me again. Which is more than understandable if you ask me! I had to make a similar decision when we wanted to get back together after she left me for another guy. I would say communication is the most important thing in a relationship for many reasons. Every relationship is gonna take its own form of communication. It takes a reprogramming of your brain almost. They never mention the times where it takes his dumb ass 4 years to commit to even see you.
Marriage may seem like this wonderful rainbow that a unicorn farts out for once you become a certain age, but let me tell you as someone fresh out of a LDR and about to be engaged.
Its scary as SHIT! I also take payments in food. Tell her you are willing to see her and really DO it. But if she really has moved on, I am so sorry, there is a girl out there close or far who is much worthy of your love and who will love you back as much you love her. I am in a LDR for 4 yrs now and communication, trust, honesty and constant reminding the other of our love what keeps us both solid and together. There should be reciprocity of love between the two of you or else one will be depleted, with all his or her love spent already.
You empty love and get filled with love by the other.
Both should be willing to fight for the other. Go and visit her if you must and talk to her in person or prove to her you meant it…your love for her. I hope this helps…Good luck. Halie April 15, at 5: My boyfriend 45 is from Florida. He is a truck driver. We talk quite more than before. He develop feelings for me.
Been cheated and hurt in the past. I will see you soon. I called him asking what for. He wanted to know what happen between us. He was talking to someone else at that point in October. He had feelings for someone else which that was me. It was his idea that I should fly out to Florida to see him to see where it was going to go. I booked my flight for Dec.
I was excited and scared meeting him for the first time. He was amazing everything what he said was true.
I fell in love with him. We made it official that we were dating right on his 4th birthday. I was their to celebrate with him on his special day. Hardest part came on Jan 3, was the day I was leaving. We wrote each other a letter on how we felt towards eachother. As we got to the airline getting my bordering pass saying our goodbye and sweet kisses was the hardest thing.
I went my ways to get ready to go home. He called me after I got through security telling me he was trying to hold his tears back walking back to car. That really made me sad. As I was on my way home… it felt different. With up and downs. We always talk,videochat,text just try to make the most of it. He got me a promise ring the symbol of his love to me that he wants to be with forever.
I will be moving to Florida to be with him next yr in March to have our life and future together. We will be getting married and I will grant him a daughter he always wanted so do i. Just to let everyone know who is in a LDR that it does work. My boyfriend and I dated all through high school and was even engaged the night of my Senior prom.
We had an amazing relationship, but I went off to college and he went into the Marines. Everyone was saying we were too young for it to work, there were people telling him I was cheating on him and vice versa. None of that was true, but we ended up breaking up and moving on.
We both married other people and had we each had three amazing children. After both our marriages failed we ended up finding each other by accident through facebook.
It has been two years since we found each other and we are more in love than we ever have been.
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The problem is…we live across the country from one another so we only get to see each other maybe once a month, if we are lucky.
Our kids are all teenagers and theirs lives and other parents are where they are. I gingerly made my way to the balcony and slid open the door, wanting to make him happy. I stepped into the cool night air and tried to climb over the railing. As I started my descent, he screamed, and rushed outside and grabbed me: I spent two years in jail because of this drug.
And when I got out, life was so hard I started taking the drug again. I know ten girls who became prostitutes because of coke. At first, it was for fun. Then I kept taking it because it gave me energy and made me feel strong and confident. I started to get edgy and impatient and got into fights with friends for no good reason.
Cocaine Addiction Stories – A Life-Ruining Addiction
I ended two relationships and lost my best friend that way. There was absolutely no way in hell I would stop. I had sore throats every night; it felt like I had a constant case of strep throat. I weighed about 90 pounds. I would get nosebleeds randomly in the middle of the day. It felt as if I had the flu all the time, but coke would subdue the symptoms. I was falling apart. It was 2 AM and I wanted more than anything to go to sleep, but instead I went into the bathroom and did a bump of coke.
A bump every half hour—that was me trying to feel sober. A taxi slammed the brakes but still hit me, and when the driver rushed out to check on me, I punched him and blacked out. Apparently, he called the police. I had no idea what had happened, but they filled me in. I passed out again after a few minutes and woke up in my apartment.
The police had released me from custody, and my dad had driven me home. The next day he came to my place and gave me two options: I could either live sober in the apartment he paid for, or I could sleep on the streets. No matter how far gone someone may seem, there is always time to get him or her off that path.
Sometimes, it takes a little inspiration, some motivation, for a person to gather up the courage to seek treatment.